Archive for June, 2016

For Orlando

Today my faith in humanity was restored.  And just a few minutes later it came crashing down again.

Last night I had a pretty crappy waitressing shift.  Those who have been in the industry know how it goes.  Some nights you get lucky and walk with great money and other nights you wonder why you even laced up your comfortable non-slip shoes.  Last night it was the latter.  I just got some unfortunate seatings and nearly cried when I counted my money at the end of the night.  I had one table of guests with a pretty sizeable bill that took their merchant copy of the credit card receipt which means that I got no tip at all.  But whatever…you win some you lose some.  I got over it.

And then this morning I got a message from one of the other servers telling me that the guest at the aforementioned table realized last night that they had taken the merchant copy of the receipt.  They felt so terrible that they went to the restaurant first thing this morning to leave me an envelope with a cash tip.

“Maybe people aren’t so terrible after all,” I thought.

And then I read about Orlando.

I can’t even begin to wrap my mind around what would fill a person with so much hate that they would go out and take innocent lives.  I can’t even comprehend the horror that happened at that event that was supposed to be suffused with the idea of understanding and love and tolerance.  I can’t imagine what the families of the deceased are going through right now.  And I can’t believe that events like these are happening so frequently.

And I don’t know how to fix it.  And I don’t know how a lot of us haven’t just broken our TVs and electronic devices to avoid hearing about any more heartbreak.  I don’t know how we haven’t decided to all just live in a cave somewhere.  I don’t know how we haven’t lost hope.

Except that maybe we just refuse to give up on each other.

I’m not saying that the two things which I have just mentioned in this piece weigh anywhere near the same amount in the grand scheme of things.  I’m not saying that massive tragedies can be undone with random acts of kindness.  But I’m saying that we need something from each other in the wake of such ugly.  We need to give each other proof that good does exist.  We need to give our anger and our grief the attention that they need at this time; but then we should check in with tending to those other things we have—compassion, hope, love.  We need to find those and then pull them forth and offer them up like they are the most precious gift we could give to one another.

Unfortunately we can’ t choose the world we live in.  But there’s so much we can do to influence the little bubble of the world that surrounds our everyday life.  And sometimes really, really shitty things happen.  And then sometimes good things happen.  The bottom line is that we are all in this together and if we choose to let the heinous actions of some people define how we view humanity as a whole, well then, we are not giving so many people the chance and the credit that they deserve.

Sometimes the most defiant thing we can do in the face of such tragedy is to keep loving each other and keep being kind to each other and having hope in each other.  Because we all deserve a little love and kindness and hope right now.  And I would like to think that those who had to senselessly lost their lives last night would like to see us doing so.

Give your loved ones a hug today.  Smile at someone who looks like they need it.  And please, please…don’t give up on each other.





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